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Cantaloupes Do Not Have Legs (And Other Reasons You Can’t Kill a Good Story)

January 5, 2015 | 52 Comments | Uncategorized
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So, it’s not unusual that whole things go on in the big wide world of the internet without me really knowing about it. Most of the time I have a chicken eating off my kitchen floor…

Nug, helping me clean the kitchen. #farmlife

It’s easy to not pay attention to much beyond that.

But with time (like the better part of two weeks off work) I open my eyes a bit to what’s going on out there, check in on old blogs, try to read through my damn twitter feed. And here’s a thing that is happening, apparently. Everyone is talking about how blogs are dying. (Or, alternatively, defending how they are not dying.)

Dying?

I’m sorry. What. This is a thing? Someone is coming around, stealing the words from your mouth and holding them out in the air until they shrivel and die? Breaking your fingers off so you can’t type? Stuffing your ears full of cotton? Taping your eyeballs shut so you can’t read?

WHAT IS THIS MADNESS?!

I spend three years hugging donkeys and neglecting my Pinterest boards*, and apparently the internet has descended into utter madness. So, I’m just going to say a thing about this right now… “blogs dying” is not real. It’s not a thing. It’s like saying “cantaloupes running” or “light-bulbs laughing”. Those are definitely two real words that someone put together in a phrase, but they fail as a concept, and here’s why: Cantaloupes do not have legs. Also, a “blog” is no different than a blank piece of paper. It’s a piece of paper that a lot of people can see, if they’d like to, or, alternatively, a lot of people can ignore. Maybe you put something really personal on that paper and fold it into a pretty little origami crane and no one gets to see it but you. Maybe you write jokes on that paper and pass it to your best friend in the back of study hall. Maybe you pick up a pen and write a novel on that paper, or draw a picture of something you’re really proud of. Maybe you whisper a secret to it and then set it on fire and make a wish on the ashes.

But, you guys, this is America. They couldn’t pry that paper out of our cold, dead hands. Nobody is taking it from you, nobody is telling you want to do with it, and nobody can stab it with a knife and make it bleed to death. Right? Right. You don’t have to do shit with that paper either, but it’s there if you want to.

Here’s what people are probably talking about… the hundreds of advertisers who jumped on the “bloggers as marketing tools” bandwagon in the last decade might decide to spend their advertising dollars elsewhere. They might. They might not. I don’t know that I’ve noticed a difference, but I don’t know that I would because my primary source of income has nothing to do with this website. I’m not knocking making a living off your blog, or your writing (I’ve made money from both and enjoyed it) I’m just saying that “making a living off blogging” is different from, like, telling awesome fucking stories. It doesn’t have to be different… maybe you tell awesome stories AND making a living from your blog, and that’s amazing. 150% amazing. But those are also two separate and distinct things. “Making money from blogging” is not all of what blogging is. Maybe it’s all of what people see sometimes, because, let’s be honest, dollar signs loom large in our vision and sometimes it’s hard to see beyond them, but that’s not the core of it. It’s not even the best part of it.

And maybe people aren’t talking about money but are talking about their audiences. People are reading blogs less, or logging-on less, or commenting less. I don’t know. There was a period of time where I stopped scheduling my posts for the “optimal posting hour” and my stats dropped two thousand views per day. Two thousand. Depending on if I schedule that shit between 9AM- 11AM or just post it whenever-the-fuck I’m done writing, which may be at 11:30 PM. Real things guys. But you know what doesn’t stop when I post things at 11:30 PM vs 9:30 AM. Real stories. Not just my stories, but the ones you email me sometimes… the stories about how maybe you thought you couldn’t do something but then you tried and it turned out fucking-awesome and you just want to share it with someone. Or the stories about how you’re going through a hard time and not as motivated as you used to be, but you’re trying. Or the funny stories about your projects. Or the stories about how you built something similar to something I built and it turned out awesome and you wanted to send me pictures. Those didn’t stop. The insightful/encouraging/hilarious comments didn’t stop, which has nothing to do with quantity and everything to do with quality.

So when I hear people say “blogs are dying”, honestly, I kind of wonder what the fuck they are talking about.

Blogs do not exist to make people money, although it’s nice when they do (and when they do it in a way that doesn’t compromise the integrity of their content.) Blogs do not exist to bring people accolades. Blogs exist for you to do whatever the hell you want to do with them. Post pictures. Talk about the things you love. Make yourself laugh. Tell good, authentic stories. Maybe people will want to read those stories, and maybe they won’t. Blogs are clay, you guys. Not living, not dying, just there, waiting for you to try and make something awesome out of it.

Truth is, I haven’t found the world as a whole to be fully on-board with real, authentic stories–there’s a reason why reality TV is a thing, and it’s not because of authenticity… just saying–but I have found that the interactions I’ve had with people, the impact I’ve made, and the way that I walk through life is far more meaningful when I’m consciously being real than when I’m watering myself down for general consumption or worrying about how marketable I am. Or even just how much people will like me.

I’m not always a good storyteller. Maybe I’m not even often a good storyteller. I think I nail it every once in a while, and those times are the ones that keep me slogging through all the why-can’t-I-write-a-coherent-sentence days.

I’m not a brand. I’m a person… which means depending on my mood, the time of day, how much alcohol is in my immediate vicinity, and whether or not mercury is in retrograde, I may feel differently about things. If you read through the last ten years of stories I’ve told on this website in a short period of time, I probably look like a total nut. (A total nut who rarely proofreads her own writing.) Sometimes I feel differently about building methods, and the proper tools to use, and the awesomeness of being single vs. being in a relationship. Sometimes I give a shit when people are saying ridiculous things about “blogging” and sometimes I’m like, aw, fuck it, I’m going to go hug a donkey.

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For real.

That’s just like the true, imperfect, authentic version of the girl who has been writing about houses, and tools, and doing it herself, and sometimes things totally unrelated to DIY for the last decade. And not a thing in the world could kill that, no matter how hard they tried.

I might not always be good at this. I might experiment with telling stories other ways. I might talk about different things. But legs be dammed you guys, this cantaloupe is going to keep on running. And I dare anyone to try and stop me.

Don’t let it stop you either. I think we all have awesome things to share, however we choose to do it.

 

*Bold faced lie. I haven’t been neglecting my pinterest boards… at least not if you like tattoos and tiny houses.

In Retrospect: I think I might have veered off the path of what I was trying to say here. I mean, I love you guys, and appreciate all the comments on this post. I also didn’t mean to make it about me, and what I do. (I mean I’m glad you appreciate my stories and the way I tell them, it makes it way more fun, and I assume if you didn’t you wouldn’t be here to read it in the first place.) So. Imma keep on telling stories no matter how the world changes. It’s just… what I do. Back in the day I used to write full-on short stories about my funny college antics on Writing.com (back when it was Stories.com I think, anyone remember that? Probably not.) Before that I would leave two-sentence stories as my away message on AOLs Instant Messenger. (Is that still a thing people do? Also, probably not.) Before that I used to create these epic collages out of photographs and phrases I cut out of magazines… I mean, back in the early nineties, before scrapbooking was even a thing. So I think the point I was making–at least for myself–is, storytelling doesn’t die. The method evolves–as does everything– and that’s one of the beautiful things about life. Telling stories on the internet will also evolve, but the thing about blogging is, it’s not a one-size-fits-all format. I know people who have blogs and only post pictures, or only post poetry, or only post recipes. I know people who write 1000 words every time they post. (Ahem.) This isn’t like using Instagram or Twitter or Facebook all of which tell you HOW to tell stories.

My point wasn’t so much to defend the medium–I mean, short of an alien invasion the internet sure isn’t going anywhere… and, honestly, I doubt the open-source code that sites like mine are built on will go anywhere either–but I think it’s worth having another perspective out there. And it isn’t just “I don’t care if you say it’s dying, I’m gonna keep blogging anyway” it’s, you know, everything I said up to this point. Not something that can die. Not something that can even really be talked about in terms of dying, because I think it’s okay for a creative medium to exist for itself, and not to make money, or for followers, or to sell something, or for approval. It’s cool to blog just because you want to.

Okay, now I’m done with this one. For real.

In Retrospect, Part 2: Also, every time I see the title for this damn thing I have to look at it three times to decided if “cantaloupes” is spelled right. I’m still only 50% sure it is.

NOW I’m done.

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    Comments

  • Jack


    ;) I feel the person you read or heard from regarding blogging dying is themselves very busy and could improve their time management. I know I’d read, write and share some awesome and some crazy not so awesome experiences with more free time and with decent net capabilties to use my laptop, or old PC other than my S/P
    ROCK ON KIT! you write it real…:-)
    jack

  • Stephanie, Sandpaper and Glue


    all those posts really bummed me out when they started coming to the surface. I like my tiny little blog, and it’ll never ever ever be a full time income for me but it’s a good outlet and I like documenting all the things I’ve learned. I looooove following your blog- because I’m from a very urban area and your life is so fascinatingly different then mine but also now I SUPER want chickens. You are absolutely a good story teller, and a badass. And now I’m off to look at your tattoo board because I onlyyyyy have 8 and my shoulder is still a blank canvas.

    • Kit


      That’s the *exact* thing that pissed me off about all this… people shouldn’t be lamenting the fact that they personally are making less money from blogging (if that’s what it is) we should all be encouraging eachother to tell this awesome real stories about our lives, for no reason other than it’s important to tell real stories about our lives! Definitely keep on writing.

  • Kym


    You’ve hit the nail on the head here. The blogs I’m still reading? They are blogs like yours, with stories and thoughts. Blogs that do very few (if any) sponsored posts, and aren’t trying to make a living chasing advertising and make it look and sound like their own thoughts. That is what is inauthentic….that is what is dying. Too bad. I’m good with the handful of authentic bloggers I read.

  • Jennifer


    I’ll keep reading as long as you keep writing. Love your authentic, inspiring, real stories. When I think I can’t do something, I remember you hauling those pieces of wood up a ladder to re-side your barn – just wow.

  • Amy


    I love your stories and your views on life, Kit. It makes my day when I see you have a new post to share. Keep living your life for you and ignore what others think or say.

  • Nine Dark Moons


    You are a fabulous storyteller! You have such a wonderful talent for sharing snapshots of your life and letting us trog along with you through your ups, downs, insights, successes, and even [temporary] failures. Keeping it real is what it’s all about. Cantaloupes would look funny with legs. I imagine them having legs like Big Bird.

    • Kit


      I totally imagine chicken legs on them too!

  • meryl rose


    It’s totally true – I almost found it offensive as a blogger that people are saying that. When I stopped writing 5 times a week because ***gasp*** I had a BABY, I saw my readership drop by almost half. At first, it made me mad, but then I thought that it was almost as if I was being consumed, and not actually read, and then I didn’t care anymore, and I thought, “Fuck it.” Now I feel more freedom to write sporadically – I am only tied to myself, my experiences and what I want to share. Not that there ever wasn’t honesty in my blogs – but I feel even more honest and free now. I still HARDLY EVER (in fact, I think only 1 in the history of my nearly 6 years of blogging) write a sponsored post and I don’t really have any intentions to. I make no money from our blog and I could give a shit. Blogging is for ME, it’s not a business.

    • Kit


      Amen sister! And you still share awesome things. People who are interested in you will be interested in quality, not quantity.

  • Nine Dark Moons


    PS – I think you could do a whole photo album of birds in your house.

  • David


    Best thing I ever did was like you on FB so I didn’t have to hunt up your blog to catch up. You post something and it’s in my face.

    The world can be going to hell in a hand basket and suddenly there you are, making me laugh, inspiring me, and occasionally provoking me. All because you don’t give a shit, or because you do.

    Thanks. Always, thanks.

    P.S. Where else could I see a continuous stream of photos of chickens in the kitchen and donkey hugs.

    You’ve totally redefined “chicken house.”

  • Julie


    But look, this exists….

    http://www.shutterstock.com/pic-146925770/stock-vector-childish-style-illustration-of-a-melon-with-bulging-eyes-legs-and-arms-smiling-with-hands-on-their.html

    • Linzy


      There’s this children’s book that has a melon of some kind on the cover that has a mouth and arms and legs and it always totally freaked me out. Here he is in the bottom left hand corner:

      http://www.amazon.com/Around-Year-Elsa-Maartman-Beskow/dp/0863156487

    • Kit


      Well, shit. Cantaloupes DO have legs…

  • Julia at Home on 129 Acres


    Argh. You tell great stories, Kit. You’re a model for me when it comes to blogging. For the last little while, I’ve been feeling like my posts have been watered down. I’m not doing it for general consumption or marketability. I’m just not sure how best to balance the personal and the private with the public and the posts. The result is that I feel like my posts are lacking in personality. You always have such great personality and authenticity in your posts. It makes your blog a pleasure to read.

    • Kit


      The balance between personal and private is always, always tricky, and it definitely depends on your own comfort level (and maybe figuring out some tricks to add in personality without getting too personal.) You know I love reading about what’s going on at your place, so I’d definitely say you’re not watered down (or writing clickbait). And I definitely walk that line every time I write, particularly if I’ve got “other shit” going on in my life that isn’t appropriate for the blog. I will say, it’s much easier to navigate without kids or a S.O. though…

  • rachel


    I’m still reading. Love your stories.

  • Dorothy


    I wait for your blog. Its such a relief and seems really authentic. Love that you tell it like it is.

    • Kit


      I’m constantly working at keeping it authentic… real without bitching, funny without becoming a caricature of myself. I don’t know that I nail it every time, but I appreciate you reading it!

  • Karen, BC


    Yeah, baby!

  • Anne


    I love your blog, you are my DIY hero, who scares the crap out of me, especially when you DIY barefoot. I have been stalking your blog since you “bought the farm”. I included my website which is just photos. Since I live overseas in houses paid for by The Man, I can’t DIY much, so I live vicariously through your antics. Thanks for your contributions and don’t stop!

    • Kit


      I love your pictures Anne! You live vicariously through my DIY antics, and I’ll live vicariously through your travels!

  • Debbra


    Your blog is the most enjoyable I have found to read. You keep it real. Go ahead and hug a donkey. Rock on Kit!

  • Anonypilgrim


    Brava!

  • Linzy


    I have to confess, I read a fair amount of blogs when I have the time, but I generally don’t comment because… I dunno! Sometimes I’m shy, or because other commenters have said pretty much the same thing, or what I have to say might be stupid. Which is funny because I’m actually really outgoing in person. Yours is one of the few I “interact” with. Maybe because you’re crazy, and weird, and human. And because you talk about cantaloupes with legs.

    • Kit


      Yes! I hope I’m always just crazy and weird enough for people to be comfortable interacting with. (Also, I have the same thing when I read other blogs. I’m like, am I *really* contributing something with this comment? So often times I don’t… but I still think it’s awesome when people speak up here, so maybe I need to take something away from that ;) )

  • El Katz


    Blogging isn’t necessarily dying. What is dying is my desire to sign up for every stinking site that wants me to “join” something.

    Case in point: Pinterest. I went to look at your ink page and it sticks a signup screen directly in my face. No, Pinterest, I am not interested in signing up. I just want to look. But I can’t. So guess what? I won’t.

    I enjoy your writing style and your refreshing slant on things. It’s not often someone can be self deprecating and humorously write about their exploits (like the episode with the dresser). It’s funny stuff.

    I contrast your energy to that of my daughter who does nothing to feather her own nest. I go and maintain her house (6 hours each way) because, if I didn’t, it would fall down and hit her in the head. Ditto her car (2 quarts of oil is plenty… right?). And it’s not like she never has been shown how. As she used to say when she was two: “I don’t bant too”. And she doesn’t.

    So… although I never met you… I am pleased to make your acquaintance. Stay true to yourself. You have a gift – one that makes people laugh. Most of us who have attempted some of the things you do can always identify with hammers flying through plate glass windows and overreaching a ladder and the sick feeling that comes over you as you watch the ground approaching at a rapid speed.

    • Kit


      I didn’t even know you couldn’t look at Pinterest without being signed up! (And yes, agreed, that’s bullshit, and so irritating.)

      Also, you are a fantastic mom for driving 6 hours to help with home/car maintenance. (When I was two I used to say “I can do it myself” and sometimes those things are just built in from the very beginning! lol)

      Thanks for reading!

  • Michelle


    “…those times are the ones that keep me slogging through all the why-can’t-I-write-a-coherent-sentence days.”

    I don’t know how I found your blog…not sure how long I’ve been reading it either, maybe a year(?), but I have yet to find myself thinking “man, she can’t write a coherent sentence” yet. I love how you write and what you write.

    You keep writing, I’ll keep reading.

    • Kit


      You know, if a post isn’t working out, I try to sit on it for a little while and re-work it until it feels “right.” And some are still better than others… but if you see a gap in time between posts (of more than a day or so) that’s usually when the words just aren’t coming out right. I’d hate to give the impression that it’s always easy… sometimes writing is a right pain in the ass. ;)

  • KelS


    Kit, Personally I have been a long time reader of blogs, including yours! And in the last couple of years, four of my “favorite” blog writers have chosen to not continue their blogs. This brings home the true nature of blogs! After reading the blogs over the years, it almost seems like you develop a relationship (loosely) with the blog writer. Then they quit writing the blog, and you feel like you have lost a friend, although you have never ever even met them! One of the pitfalls of writing blogs seems to be burnout. So please, keep a reasonable pace, and please keep it real. I would miss you……

    • Kit


      No worries on burnout here. I’ve been fairly consistent in my format (for a decade!) so I don’t expect it will change much, but I do wonder about podcasting or doing videos… maybe those would be fun ways to share things too? I’m always open to new things.

  • Kim


    It’s a little light in my day when I see one of your new posts in my in box. When I first found your blog a couple of houses ago, I binged read them all from the beginning and still keep up with them. Your blog gives me farming by proxy.
    How else could I have chickens and donkeys in the ‘burbs? :)

    • Kit


      Farming by proxy isn’t a bad thing… less chicken hugs, yes. But also less shit-shoveling… ;)

  • Lou


    If by “blogging” they mean superficial, sponsored blogs with very little interesting, original content, then I’ll be glad to see them peter out. It’s the original blogs that stand out and keep the reader’s attention, and keep them coming back for more.

  • Guerrina


    And all of that is why I keep following your blog! I very much appreciate your honesty and day-to-day realness. Seeing a new post from you is like having a best friend call to see what trouble we can arrange!

    Your “don’t-tell-me-I-can’t” attitude reminds me of my younger self including going opposite of the best choice on occasion (a lot) just to prove I could (and did as often as not).

    Okay…still have the attitude…which is why at my un-named decade, I own a sliding compound miter saw, assorted power tools AND I USE THEM! You/your blog and my attitude made me believe I could accomplish great things and I am!

    You being you….wouldn’t have it any other way!

  • emily


    I stopped following a lot of blogs. Full on unfollow, complete detachment. I think there’s SO MUCH noise out there, and like meryl mentioned above, it started to feel like there were a lot of blogs I was consuming but not connecting with. Those few I have kept around, I’ve decided are authentic enough for me to trust/like regardless if content is sponsored or on topic or scheduled or daily or not. YOU could basically write about anything sponsored, and I know it would still come across as authentic, because I think that’s how you roll (and if you were to pimp a Cricut, I would probably even forgive you).

    I don’t think blogging as an outlet is going away/dying, agreed that it’s a stupid word to explain the trend, but I think there’s finally enough noise out there for advertisers finally recognize that partnering with bloggers isn’t converting sales like it used to (truthfully, I’m not convinced there was ever a great conversion). That said, I also don’t think sponsorships will cease anytime soon, because we’re like, the cheapest advertising spend out there… I think if they were smart, they could refine the selection process and partner with people with more genuine qualities and writing styles, but who knows.

    When I look at my reader now, I think “these are all totally people I’d go grab a beer with.” Hopefully someday we’ll cross paths and we can.

    Looking forward to hearing more about the bees. It’s something my husband and I have been scheming about too. And peacocks.

  • Kara


    Amen! Keep on keeping on Kit! I love your stories-your authenticity comes through.

  • Alistair


    Word!

  • Kelly


    Awesome!

  • Mia-Jane Detton


    You are the most authentic person I’ve Never met! Your stories are entertaining and your adventures in DIY are always inspiring! Don’t EVER change!! \m/ YOU ROCK! \m/

  • Jenn


    I think the dying blog concept came about because some very popular bloggers shuttered their blogs. Here’s the thing with that: many people view that as a pattern, and if the big name bloggers can’t hack it anymore, then how can the smaller blogs continue? Blogs (as a concept) must be dying!

    But this is ludicrous. Some blogs have shuttered because the people running them did not know how to properly run a business, and the business (blog) therefore could no longer be sustained. Other bloggers quit because they wanted to have their cake and eat it, too; they wanted all the praise and head pats, but no criticism, and certainly not to be held accountable for their actions. Anyone who didn’t agree with their viewpoint was labeled “a hater”. That costs you readership, and eventually, your blog.

    But these are then failed businesses. Or hobbies. Many people don’t see them as such. (Collective) you wouldn’t notice a few stores go out of business, and say, “Stores are dying! No more stores!” (Collective) you would hopefully say, “Sad. Another failed business.”

    As you said, blogs aren’t dying, because they are incapable of doing so. However, perhaps the influence and popularity of blogs is waning, or just changing direction. I think that’s a better way to look at the situation.

    But I’m not a blogger. What do I know? ;)

    • Jenn


      Addendum: I personally enjoy reading blogs that I know are not solely about making money. You can usually tell through the content posted. Some blogs are ALL about the revenue, and I can tell. But I can generally weed out the ones who are in it for the joy, rather than the money. I think those will stick around for a long time to come, because motive is everything!

      And I enjoy supporting those bloggers, because I know whatever money they earn from their blog, they really appreciate. They don’t post to earn; they post good content because they wish to, and their efforts are rewarded. Big difference!

      I appreciate authenticity. :)

  • Jody


    I completely agree that the medium will change, but the storytelling will remain.

    I’d settle for the spammy blogs just to promote somebody’s product page dying. But, I’d have to be Matt Cutts at google to make that happen. Fortunately, it seems like they’re working on it.

  • Ginger


    Hey Kit-I caught your blog a couple years back and also binge read to catch up. Bought my first house at 48 with hot flashes every 20 minutes round the clock and 1.5 hrs sleep per night after 50mg of Benadryl and 2 or 3 glasses of wine just to get to sleep at midnight and wake by 1:30. “Acute menopause” they said. So I read your blog just to keep my head occupied. And I laughed often . And bought the Makita. And the projects began. And after a similar amount of wine I found myself tracking carpenter ants on an extension ladder at 1130 pm with a red flashlight while being shined by the police because my new neighbor thought I was an intruder. And I don’t like heights. Note to self: next time you have your carpenter ant infested tree cut down DO spray the escapees with poison. Or they will crawl up your gutters. No shit. But guess what, the next project I did myself, which was to cut down about 70 unwanted buckthorn trees and completely , including regrading, redo my entire yard from “grass” to a backyard park with frontyard English country garden complete with raised beds. With vegetables – even the parking strip. Couldn’t have done it without you, my beloved restinpeace dog and bunny (Hank and Benjamin), insomnia, and maybe a few fried frontal lobe brain cells. There are so, so many stories here. But because of you , I now have about twenty power tools and I AM HAVING FUN. I am now 52 , and I need your stories-all of them. Keep on writing, some day I might too.

    • KelS


      Ginger, I hope we do hear from you! You have tales to tell!

      • Nine Dark Moons


        Agreed, Ginger! Your comment had me in stitches – it paints such a visual! Would love to hear more of your stories!

  • Jody Brittain


    Just so you know. I read your blog every time you post something new! You are a very good story teller and this is what contributes to the enjoyable blogs. Keep on bloggin’ and I’ll keep on readin’. :)

  • Kimberly


    I started reading your blog, because of the things I learned from you, but I kept reading, because I like how you write and the stories you tell whether, funny, educational or thought provoking.

    For me the part about honesty, employment and watering yourself down is what really spoke to me and my life right now. I have had several job interviews now, and it is that balance that bothers me, I shouldn’t have said that or I should have phrased it this way instead. How and what to say about a bad situation, that I am powerless to change (or it is a campaign I don’t think is a worthwhile use of my time to fight), what white lies to say to make me seem like I’m a great upbeat person, who can do the job (it seems that can do is wanted more than a truthful I can learn, and I think teaching/training and learning are more important). How do I best sell myself, it is just such a repugnant, stupid and ugly way to look at it, I should be able to say the truth. I know some people are very dour and little can make them happy, or are incapable of judging what a really bad siltation is. This can cause us/society to think, oh they know nothing, they are just complaining to complain, and turn a blind eye. I know that we cannot easily change everything in this world, but I wonder if the white lies do more harm to us than we know. Our society seems to be in love with illusions. The illusion of happiness, the illusion of successes, the illusion of wealth… People seem to care little for reality, and it is thought to be better/easier to play along.

    This post and others made me realize how much I hate the can’t mentality. You can’t change it; that is just the way it is. It will not change in our life time, why bother. You will be happier, if you don’t think about it, forgive, forget and move on. And I can’t, I can’t stop thinking, wondering, questioning. I wonder what makes people feel so resigned and lazy in thought and deed. So yes I hold my wounds close to me, but to let go, feels to me like giving up, maybe I can find a way to say something that will cause people to change a little of how they think. It is these thoughts that cause me to think about starting my own blog, but I have my reservations about putting myself out there, and what I would want to focus on. Also just my desire for my life to be in a more stable place holds me back, (just another part of what my job robs from my life). There is also a little doubt of whether I could stick with it, I have never enjoyed keeping a journal, though I think the way you express thoughts to yourself and the way you express them for others to read is different enough that it appeals to me more. I like the back and forth that takes place in forums, and I think blogs can do both.

    I hate being told that I’m naïve; the thought that the spark inside me might die is terrifying. To me those who think that are already dead. Thanks for letting me take up some space on your no longer blank page.

  • James Mason


    “I’m not knocking making a living off your blog, or your writing (I’ve made money from both and enjoyed it) I’m just saying that “making a living off blogging” is different from, like, telling awesome fucking stories.”

    Haha, I love it, well said!

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